They say that people don’t leave jobs. Rather, they leave people. If you’re contemplating a job change because of a difficult co-worker or boss, it’s good to know if the problem is your stuff, their stuff, or shared stuff.
Roughly 15% of Americans suffer from personality disorders. The popular definition of a personality disorder is “a way of behaving that drives other people crazy.”
Look at this list of 100 behaviors that might indicate a personality disorder. If you see some of your colleague or yourself, don’t worry. However, if you see too much of your colleague or yourself, talk with a counselor. You might need professional help in resolving the problem. Don’t diagnose anyone. Don’t label anyone. Get support from a licensed mental health professional.
Many employers offer free or low cost counseling sessions — either through a confidential employee assistance plan or through their health insurance.
Don’t try to change your colleague. You can’t control his/her behavior. Rather, focus on your own behavior and your choices. Work with your counselor to decide on one or more of these options:
- Developing a strategy for you to create a more productive working relationship with your colleague.
- Developing a strategy for you to approach your boss and/or human resources about the problem.
- Mapping out and implementing a plan for your own growth.
- Making a job change.
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